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Discovering Your Purpose - Three Keys To Fulfillment
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Tune in and discover three keys to unlocking your purpose and experiencing fulfillment in your life. This heartfelt discussion I (Jason) had with a close friend, who was grappling with a sense of purposelessness, led to an epiphany I'm excited to share with you.
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Three Keys to Fulfillment and Purpose
Speaker 1So this today , we're going to be talking about three keys to fulfillment , and why I say that is David , and I want to talk to you about Three keys that will help you discover your purpose . Okay , this is which one fulfilled , which is going to lead to fulfillment . And the reason why we're talking about this is the other day I had a conversation with a really good friend of mine and he said man , you know , I'm 40 something years old , I'm feeling like I lack purpose right now . You know he's not married and , and he wants a career change , but then he's not sure what he would do and he's just really he feels like he's fumbling around . Of course , you know , I encouraged him . You're not fumbling around , you're doing great things . Sometimes the best thing that God can do is bless you with his silence and he was feeling that . But as we begin to talk , I shared with him three keys to fulfillment . I told him . I said you know , for you lacking purpose , you're feeling like you're not very fulfilled right now , or anything like that . He said yeah , that's right . And I said well , there are three keys . Now obviously there's more , but I'm just gonna share with you three and and . After I got done with the conversation . I called David . I was like dude , I think I . I think I've stumbled on something that might be a good podcast , so that's what we want to share with you today .
Speaker 1Three , three keys to fulfillment , which is all tied to your purpose . Have you ever felt purposelessness ? You know , like you , you're like man . What it ? What exactly is my purpose ? I'm not really in a good place right now , and if you've ever felt that , or if you know somebody who does , then let's discuss that real quick . Three things that will help you get back on track , and they all start with the letter G . Let me give you the three things that we're gonna go back gift , gratitude , give . Those are three keys the gift that you have , experiencing gratitude in your heart and your willingness to give yourself away . Okay , let's start with gift . Purpose is tied to the gift God gives to you , so our purpose is tied to the gift that he gives to us , because the gift he's given to me is different than the gift he's given to David . People know that they like my gift better than David's . Okay , hold on , hey , just so everybody knows real good . Let me just say this real quick God gives us all talents and abilities , but he also gives us spiritual gifts . If you know him , yeah , but your talent , your ability and your spiritual gift , they work together to glorify God . I want to give you a quick , quick scripture that's always encouraged me in terms of purposes acts 1336 .
Speaker 1It says now , when David had served God's purpose in his own generation , he fell asleep . It's interesting it was David Served God's purpose , it wasn't David's purpose , mm-hmm . So you have to say that . You know . Romans 828 says and we know that all things work together for good to those that love God and are called according to His purpose . It doesn't say your purpose .
Speaker 1So in today's self-absorbed Culture , including in the church , a lot of times it's all about your journey , your journey I hate that word . Your purpose , okay , good Look , you are a day player in God's story . It is not your story , it is God's story and you're a day player and he values you and he loves you . But it ain't all about you . So David served God's purpose in His generation . The key is is it's God's purpose in your generation ?
Speaker 1At this moment in history , god could have put you at any other epic of history and yet he chose to put you here . And if you're listening to this podcast . You are alive in 2024 , in the United States of America or in any other country , and God put you there for such a time as this and it's . He's got his Purposes . Yeah , and he he has given you talents and abilities at birth and at Spiritual birth , when you got saved , he has given you a spiritual gift . So you have gifts to serve God's purposes . And then here's what I love and I want to give Shane Sam's a shout out , because he's the one that helped me craft this when it comes to discovering your gift , because a lot of people are like , okay , well , I don't really know what I'm gifted at . Maybe I'm good with people , maybe I'm good with numbers or whatever .
Speaker 1Well , here are three questions that will help you hone in on what exactly is your gift . Okay , here are three questions and then we'll we'll dive back into each of these . What have you lived ? What have you learned ? What do you love ? The first question what have you lived ? Here is something that is so incredibly powerful . What you have lived through is your testimony . Your testimony is a gift . It is a gift Like for me .
Speaker 1I'd never struggled with anxiety a day in my life until almost two years ago and it literally almost sidelined me to a point where I wanted to stop public speaking . I didn't want to go out and see anybody , right , I had never lived through anything like that before and I experienced it and I got through it and I know that the Lord wants me to write about it at some point , to share the steps that I did to get through that . But I lived through that and now that I've lived through that , I have talked to so many other people who struggle with anxiety and I have a gift to give them . That gift is what I did to overcome anxiety . So the first question is what have I lived ? What has happened to you that now you have something you can give to other people ? Okay , so it's what have you lived ?
Speaker 1Number two what have you learned ? You know , for David and I in the workplace , you know I actually learned how to craft a talk that I'm going to give to business people . I figured out . You know three different sections that you need to have . I learned how to create systems and David and I teach that in expert ownership . You know silo segment , stack steps . It's at four part system building deal . I learned that and now I can actually give that away as a gift , you see .
Speaker 1So what is your gift ?
Speaker 1So , first , what have you lived ?
Speaker 1What have you lived through ?
Speaker 1Number two what have you learned ? What's something you've learned that's helped you ? It's helped you make money , it's helped you become a better dad . It's helped you become a better husband , wife , mother , whatever it is . What have you learned that you can then give away ?
Speaker 1Okay , and then , lastly , what do you love ? What is it that you love ? What is it that you're passionate about ? What energizes you ? What drains you ? Pay close attention to that , yep , what does energize it ? It's like David and I we're passionate . We love working out , we love getting the heart rate up . So that is a gift . You know that we go out and we work out , and now I can tell you hey , this workout is actually a good one if you wanna lose fat . This one's not Right now . That's something that I love , and so that is our gift . So , if you wanna know your gift , ask those three questions what have I lived , what have I learned , what have I loved or what do I love ? Okay , so you wanna find your purpose . Number one it's gift .
Speaker 1Number two gratitude Approach everything you do , no matter how big or small , with a heart of gratitude . Because what gratitude does is it literally heals your body and it floods your brain and your mind with the positive endorphins that you need . That makes you feel purposeful , that makes you feel fulfilled . So it's healing to your body and makes you feel fulfilled . You know , psalm 100 says enter my gates with thanksgiving and my courts with praise . God knows that gratitude is the hack . Gratitude is the secret code . It is you wanna get God's presence , you gotta do it through gratitude .
Gratitude and Positive Thoughts
Speaker 1That's right .
Speaker 1First , thessalonians 5 , 16 through 18 . I'm just gonna read a little piece of it . It says rejoice always , pray continually , give thanks in all circumstances , for this is God's will for you and Christ Jesus . You know , if God says , hey , this is my will , you might wanna do it . So gratitude is crucial and it doesn't just bless God , but it truly does bless us with incredible amounts of dopamine . You have no idea what gratitude does to your brain . And now brain science is coming out . You know , the crazy thing is is brain science has come out just in the last 20 years and it's revealing so much awesome stuff that what our thoughts can do to release positive and good health health , bringing endorphins and hormones into our bodies just from our thoughts , and so when you're thinking those gratitude thoughts , it literally can give you a physical feeling of God's presence .
Speaker 1Yes , like think of a time . Here's a gratitude exercise . I learned this from a really good book it's called the other half of church , by Jim Wilder , but anyway he talks about a gratitude exercise . He says think about a time in your life where you felt extreme gratitude and connected to God in that moment . He said think about that time .
Speaker 1You know so for me , I can remember being a senior in college and my first three years in baseball . I didn't hit all that great , I wasn't playing , I was playing average and I knew I wouldn't get drafted . And then I worked really hard over the summer , met a guy named Greg Moore Hart who helped change my swing and I got things back on the right track and I really played that season with a just a freedom and a looseness and just like a heart of gratitude and I was so thankful to the Lord . I finally started hitting really well , and you can ask David , I mean it was a number of games during the season where I hit the game , winning home run , and I can remember one in particular against Charleston Southern , where the guy brought a high inside fastball . We were down by one run . We had a runner on and in the bottom of the I forget the bottom of the last inning I turned on that high inside fastball , laced it over the right field fence and I rounded the bases and touched home plate . We won the game because of that and I was just so overwhelmed with gratitude that I went behind . You know , it was a doubleheader . So in between games I went behind the right field fence , got out on my knees , I started crying , just thanking the Lord .
Speaker 1Well , you know , if I go back and I relive that , I just go in my mind , I get some quiet place , I close my eyes and I think about that and I put myself back in that situation and I feel myself running the bases and I feel that feeling of gratitude and connection to God . In that moment , guess what I start to feel ? It in my body again , right there , what you're feeling is all that positive stuff , the endorphins , the hormones that God uses to heal your body . Right , and how did I get that ? I got it because I thought those thoughts of gratitude . You know , it's that deep thankfulness that you feel . You feel purposelessness in your life or purposeless in your life , you feel like lack of fulfillment or whatever . Look at the gift that you have and then wrap some gratitude into your life and around that gift .
Speaker 1You know the opposite is actually true in this regard , because thoughts become feelings and then feelings become actions , especially when it's a negative thought or an unholy thought or a lustful thought if it's a man and that thought the Bible teaches us in 2 Corinthians 10 , 5 , we take every thought and make it obedient to Christ . In other words , if a thought comes in and quite often the devil will throw thoughts at you or it's maybe just your straight up sin nature , but a thought will hit you have to take it captive and make it obedient , because if that thought begins to become a feeling , then that feeling will ultimately become an action , and that's the path towards sin and death . But then we not only take unrighteous thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ , but we also pause and we then inject godly thoughts . We can control our thinking and give time to the Lord and what happens is the devil will keep us in a consistent state of distraction and , as our executive coach , eric Beck . We
Keys to Purpose and Distraction Avoidance
Speaker 1love him .
Speaker 1He says distraction is distraction . In other words , you're not moving forward anymore . There's no more traction in your life because you're on social media all the time or you're playing video games . You're a grown man and you're playing video games . I would just encourage you , if you're a grown man playing video games , stop it . Two words Unless you make really good money off of it , stop it and get your boys off video games . Right , because distraction , distraction and all that dopamine that's getting dropped on these boys is . If you've accomplished something by getting to the around level 10 , like I'm in , like I'm in whatever that other world zone , it's like bull . You have accomplished jack . Stop it . Sorry , I didn't tick off , but anyways , it's distraction . You're not moving forward anymore , you're moving backward .
Speaker 1And so the negative like the positive on the gratitude side of what Jason is saying and controlling your thinking and really going after the Lord and in your body beginning to heal itself . The opposite is true as well . You have to take all of your thoughts captive , make them obedient to Christ and do not allow that thought to become a feeling . And then pay attention to who you're hanging around . If you're hanging around negative people that are taking you off of that gratitude path , then don't hang around them . It's like , well , they need Jesus . No , don't worry about that . God can bring somebody else to them . But you go in , you give them Jesus . But I'm talking about bringing people into your inner circle . They cannot be the people that are gonna take you out of that gratitude zone , okay .
Speaker 1So first you wanna find your purpose . You want three keys to fulfillment . The first is look at your gift , okay . Number two is gratitude wrap gratitude around it . And number three is give , which is the willingness to give of yourself . You can't sit back . If you sit back you're gonna feel purposelessness . But the minute you get out there and you start moving forward and you serve someone , then all of a sudden you're gonna start to feel purpose . And it doesn't matter what it is . If you have two working legs and two arms .
Speaker 1And I've said this so many times to somebody who's standing on the side of the road , who's my age of course , I'm close to 50 , 48 years old who's asking for money , and I'm like man you can walk , you can talk , you've got two arms . You did not offer to bring me one thing of value . You didn't say , hey , can I walk your dog . Hey , can I clean your windshield ? Like whatever it is like offer something of value and just doing something for another person is gonna make you feel like you've got more purpose . And so that's the whole idea .
Speaker 1Like , listen , an apple tree will cease to yield apples if it's not willing to give its apples away . When an apple tree releases the apple , then it makes room for another apple to show up . So do you wanna feel purpose ? Well then , be willing to give yourself away . And you might be thinking , well , I don't really have anything to offer . Well then , go learn something and whatever you learn , be willing to share that with somebody else . Yeah , it says Proverbs 11 , 25 says the generous will prosper and he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed . That's the apple tree . You're refreshing others , you're serving others , whatever capacity that is . You get involved in your church , serve your family , serve in your neighborhood , serve in your company , find ways to serve the Lord's purposes .
Speaker 1And I love what Tony Evans said . This is so awesome because he says you feel more purpose when you work for eternal rewards . Well , how do you know you're working for an eternal reward ? Like what am I supposed to do at lunch breaks ? Have a Bible study and that gives an eternal reward . If I get somebody to come to my Bible study with me or something . Yeah , I mean to a certain extent , but what he says , I love how he says this . He said anything that we do that God has given us to do , whether that's work or whether that's schoolwork , or anything that he's given us to do , if we do it for God's glory , with a heart to glorify the Lord , it counts as an eternal reward . And he gives a whole bunch of theology behind it . And we don't have time on this podcast to do that , because listen , that's one of the leaders that I listen to .
Speaker 1I listened to Dr Tony Evans . I love his preaching All the time . He is a kingdom man , which means king's dominion . God is the king and he's got dominion over every area of your life . There's no area of our lives where we just have little we're in charge . It's God's in charge of everything . But anyway , so the eternal reward when you're serving God's purposes , even in the little things that you're doing , doing it as unto the Lord , or tipping at a restaurant and putting in tip well and put Jesus loves you like , ask your server how can you pray for them Just little bitty things . Now you're building eternal rewards and you start feeling purpose , that every little area of your life . The people in your gym know that , but if I go to so and so , they're gonna pray for me or be that kind of person and you're living on purpose . Yeah , and just to say something about Tony Evans real quick , I would say one of the books that you have to put on your reading list if you're a dude is Kingdom man by Tony Evans . Read that in 2024 . If you're a woman , kingdom Woman yes , by Tony Evans , and I think it's his wife or it might be one of his daughters , but Kingdom Woman . Those are fantastic books to read .
Speaker 1So there are three keys to fulfillment , three keys to purpose in your life gift , gratitude . Give your gift , don't know what your gift is . Ask yourself the three questions what have I lived , what have I learned and what do I love ? Like , sit in that and think about it and that'll help you hone in what the gift is that you have and then wrap gratitude into your life and then be willing to give yourself away and in doing that you're gonna find yourself in a very good place of living on purpose . All right , that's it , jason .
Speaker 1We have to do an owner to loan it . We do , yeah , own it or loan it . Nike shoes oh yeah , you gotta own that . Why ? I don't like doing business with Nike . Obviously they hate God , but they are radicals . Yeah , but I mean I'm gonna use their tools that they have to take them down . Yes , I don't know what do you ? I don't even know what I think about that . I'm sitting here judging you and I've got my Apple iPhone and they have absolutely . Like , there's a pregnant man emoji on our ridiculous Apple iPhones .
Speaker 1Okay , let me say this real quick because , now that I'm on this topic about books because I just said to read Tony Evans' Kingdom man if you're a dude , kingdom Woman , if you're a woman in 2024 .
Speaker 1Couple more books . I think you should read Winning the War in your Mind by Craig Groshel . It is one of the best books . That I would say is probably the best book I read in 2023 . Definitely love that . If you are a kingdom entrepreneur , read the Six Working Geniuses by Patrick Linceoni . Yeah , that was a good one . He's got a little test too . Oh my gosh , it's very good .
Speaker 1And then the last one that I would say , just because it's good for all around is the 16 Undeniable Laws of Communication by John Maxwell . Yeah , I love that . It is a little more for speakers , so if you wanna become a speaker or whatever but it was , I love everything by John Maxwell . All of his stuff is so simple . Yeah , I love that about him . But anyway , listen , you know , what else is simple is signing up for Christian healthcare ministries and saving yourself some money on that nonsense insurance racket that's out there . Expertownershipcom slash CHM They've been incredible . If you wanna do something great , do that in 2024 for your family and save yourself some money and also get some really good health sharing benefits out of all of that . All right , that's it . Subscribe rate review . Share it with some friends and this community continues to build . It's pretty awesome watching this bad boy . So we hope that this has been a blessing to you and we'll see you next week . Peace .